skills for the pastor's wife

What Relationships Should I Invest In?

The following post was commissioned by a reader, Rachael, who asked me about discernment in knowing what friendships to invest in and to...

The Disciplined Leader: Saying No When Necessary

One afternoon last fall, as I put the clean laundry away, I fell to the floor of my closet, weeping uncontrollably. I had no idea why the...

Encouraging Your Pastor-Husband

Ministry can at times feel like one big battle against discouragement. If I experience it as a pastor’s wife, I can’t imagine how...

Hospitality: A Vital Component to Church Planting

In 2008, my husband and I planted a church in a cultural context where it’s fairly easy to meet people but difficult to build intimate...

When Someone You've Invested In Leaves Your Church

We’ve all had it happen: a church member or a family we’ve ministered to, loved dearly, and have considered family, leaves the church....

From Generalist To Specialist: What To Do When You're Doing It All

Prior to planting, my husband served on a large church staff where his roles and responsibilities were clearly defined. To support him...

Asking Good Questions and Listening Well

“How did it go?” I’d gone to coffee with someone I didn’t know well but hoped to. “It was OK,” I said. “She didn’t ask me any questions,...